YOUR DESTINED PARTNER -- PART THREE

The time of your entry into marriage and commitment is known to your Creator, as is the destiny and point of consciousness of both you and your intended partner.


Plan of Life

Marriage is an important rite of passage. It is just as important as birth and death. So there is no such thing as error in the plan of your life -- your destiny. There is a Divine Force that knows all things, that is aware of every step that you take, of every hair on your head. There is no need for fear, no need for doubt. If you do have doubts then meditate on them, listen to the innermost murmurings of your heart. Talk to your Creator and seek Its peace, seek Its counsel, and what you desire to know will be released to you. Have faith, trust in the Divine Force that has guided you in your life so far and will guide you in the future. Your marriage partner awaits you just as eagerly as you await your partner.

Spiritual Aspects and Intuition

Do not forget that the male aspect of spirit is not always in a male body and the female aspect of spirit is not always in a female body. The male aspect will always pursue the female aspect and it is the female aspect that makes the choice, using her divine power, her inutitive channel. Nevertheless, sometimes the female aspect of spirit, with its powers of selection, can be in a male body. So outwardly it is not always the male that seeks the female and the all knowing female that accepts or rejects. It can work the other way around especially when a very strong female aspect of spirit is in a male body.

Breakdowns in Marriage

The reasons for breakdowns in marriage are infinite and depend, of course, on the nature of the relationships. In the World in which you live today so many people have relationships before they actually get married that truly it can be said that they have been married several times and I mean this not in the true sense of the word but in the way that they live together and have a sexual relationship! If someone enters into such a relationship with selfish motivation, seeking only support from their partner, always taking rather than giving, then obviously the relationship is meaningful for them only so long as their partner gives, as they are getting what they want from the relationship.

However, when they have taken as much as they want, or they find someone else who is prepared to give more, they end the relationship and move on. This can be true on many levels of life. I would say that if you enter into such a relationship, never intending marriage, then your motivation is usually wrong and that you have a selfish, not a selfless, motivation. You are entering the relationship not to consummate a holy act of creation, but to satisfy the needs of your lower self. This inevitably leads to conflict and that is why so many people are continually changing partners.

Moment of Choice

When we talk urges and drives we are using terminology which is difficult to quantify. However my understanding of physical life is that no matter what the urge, conscious or unconscious, before you actually allow that urge to become physical reality there is a moment of choice when you can either say "Yes" or "No" to it, when you can either accept or reject it. There is a moment when you can exercise the divine gift of free choice. You have to make the choice and that choice, of course, should be based on your soul wisdom, but if, for example, you are so besotted with someone that you do not want to listen to your soul then you will not stop to meditate in your heart to see if what you are doing is correct. But that moment of choice is there and it is there more for the woman than for the man. It is the man who pursues the woman seeking her wisdom. It is then up to the woman to make the choice and to either accept or reject him.

Marrying Too Young

Many people make the mistake of marrying at too young an age, with wrong motivations. Many marriages break up simply because at the time they were entered into neither of the people concerned really knew what they were doing. But as one grows older and more mature, and perhaps sees a more spiritual purpose in marriage, there is nothing to stop you attracting your true partner to you. You have just made a little diversion from your destiny path, a diversion which has taught you many lessons. You can return to your path again with ease.

This article is from "The Fantastic Teachings of Ramala".

YOUR DESTINED PARTNER -- PART TWO

It is important that you recognise not only that there is such a thing as a destined partner but also that there is such a thing as a destined time for marriage and commitment.



Recognising Your Partner

How then are you to recognise that chosen person?? The greatest mistake that you can make is to spend hours thinking about it, for thought does not come into the process of selecting and marrying your destined partner. Thought only creates personality alternatives. It is the heart that selects. There can be no alternatives for the heart, because the heart, which is the seat of the spirit, has already made its choice. Therefore no selection process takes place within the heart, only the process of recognising what has already been ordained. Therefore to think, to dream, to create images of the person you will marry, of the nature of the marriage and of what it will create, is a waste of time and energy and will only lead to confusion in the mind.

Old souls choose their partners with their hearts. You use the expression of falling in love. That form of love is the love of the personality emotions, the love of thought-forms, the romantic love of the story books. No! True love is the love of the heart. It is the love of your Creator permeating through you. It is the recognition of the two becoming the one and of the strength that that energy produces, a strength that cannot be ignored.

This recognition is as striking as the moment of birth and the moment of death. If you are seeking your marriage partner and have not felt this love then either you have not yet met the one you are to marry or, if you have, the moment for marriage has not yet arrived.

Gift of Free-choice

Many people meet their destined partners and will then wait for many years before they marry. The reasons for this are manifold but are usually either karmic or because of the differing rates at which the individuals concerned have evolved in their present lives. You all possess the divine gift of free-choice and can vary the rate at which you open and develop your centres of power and energy (chakras), the rate at which you bring forth your soul consciousness.

Because of this free-choice many souls will deviate from their destiny paths and will take time to return to them, thus delaying the onward progression of their souls. Therefore until both partners are ready for marriage on a spiritual level there is no point in them marrying. Indeed, if either of them is not yet ready for marriage, then the destined time of marriage will be postponed until the individuals concerned are ready for that act of union. Such a decision is of course taken on the higher levels of life. So you must not only have met your destined partner, but both of you must be ready for that act of union, for the commitment to marriage on a spiritual level.

Act of Service

Old souls do not marry for romance. They marry to be of service to Humanity and to the Cosmos. They marry to serve the principle of marriage which is one of service, of service not to themselves but to Humanity and to the World as a whole. They come together at the appointed time to unite their energies as a act of service to their Creator. Therefore, individually, they should prepare for this event. They should develop their strength of character, they should eliminate their personality weaknesses and prepare themselves for their spiritual union.

Marriage is not a ceremony which they should walk into with their eyes closed, fatalistically, just because they feel they should marry. Rather it is like a knight keeping his vigil before he earns his spurs. It requires fasting, prayer, meditation and one-pointedness to prepare for that blessed union. Until both the partners are ready there is no point in marrying, for the entrance into marriage is just as important as is the leaving of it.

Nature of Marriage

The nature of the energy that is grounded as you enter into marriage and make your vows, as you establish your life together, will decide the nature of the marriage. It will create the pattern of the married life to come. If you enter with wrong motivation, with wrong thought-forms, if you enter in a world of illusion, then that will be the path which the marriage will take. It is therefore important that you enter into marriage with clarity.

Look with the eyes of the soul, not with the eyes of infatuation, of romance, of the personality thought-forms. Look with the eyes of the soul for it is the one soul recognising the other that ignites the fire of the destined union. There is no choice for an old soul, just a moment of awakening within the heart, a recognition that the moment for marriage has come. If there is any doubt then that moment has not come. For an old soul there is never any doubt, only the certain knowing that you are embarking upon the destiny which you have chosen.

Ready for Marriage

If you feel ready for marriage but cannot find your partner, it can be the case that the time has come when you were destined to marry but your partner is not yet ready for marriage. You therefore have to exercise patience and wait for them to evolve a little further along their path so that they may reach the point of consciousness when they can enter correctly into marriage and can make their presence known to you. You would not wish it otherwise. Your partner must be ready for that union. To marry someone who is not your equal in soul evolution, someone who has not yet fully awakened their spritual consciousness and so cannot share with you on all levels, would be to destroy the marriage.

Part Three follows....

This article is from "The Fantastic Teachings of Ramala".

YOUR DESTINED PARTNER -- PART ONE

The three most significant rites of passage in life which you will celebrate as human beings are birth, death and marriage.


Choosing With Deliberation

Over birth and death it would appear that you exercise little choice, although the truth of the matter is that on the higher levels of life, before you incarnate, you choose very deliberately and with great consciousness both your moment of birth and your moment of death. Nevertheless, because at birth and death you are transferring your spiritual consciousness from one plane of life to another, the fact that you have made a choice is not always readily apparent.

With the act of marriage, because you are living on the physical plane of life in your bodies of matter and because the density of the World´s vibrations dulls your senses, that inspiration which is present on the higher levels of life appears to be denied to you. Many of you therefore experience great uncertainty as you seek out the partner that you have chosen to marry in this life.

Soul Consciousness

It is important that you realise that evolved souls choose their marriage partners with as much care as they choose their moment of birth and their moment of death. There will always be a destined partner to complete a destined marriage, a partnership agreed on from the higher levels of life by the souls involved before they even came down into the physical matter of Earth. As in all things it is the point of soul consciousness that decides both the level of the marriage and the nature of its destiny.

For young souls it does not matter so much if a destined marriage does not come to pass because they will learn lesson no matter whom they marry. Moreover, the lower the point of consciousness the more the souls that are available from which to select a partner for marriage, but as you progress up the evolutionary ladder so the choice becomes more restricted. If you do not choose your destined partner and marry someone else then your destiny is restricted, and in the case of an evolved soul is severly restricted. It is therefore important that you both find and marry your destined partner.

A Sacred Sacrament

In the World in which you live today when perhaps twenty five percent of all marriages end in divorce and when another twenty five percent are marriages only in name, with husbands and wives simply living together in a joyless union, it is all the more remarkable that there are some people who still regard marriage as a lifetime´s commitment. Such people insist on finding their right partner even though they know a legal release can easily be obtained from a marriage if they think they have made a mistake.

It is indeed a rare soul, a soul of aged evolution, that regards marriage as a spiritual act and invokes the blessing of its Creator on that union, that dedicates the creativity of the union to its God. Marriage is a sacred sacrament and its significance is never lost on an evolved soul. That is why old souls always seek to find their destined partner in marriage. They recognise both the sanctity of the union and the purpose for which they agreed to marry on Earth.

Seeking Your True Partner

The temptation is always present for an evolved soul to marry a less evolved soul. The magnetic quality of an evolved soul will often attract a less evolved soul to it like a moth to the flame. An evolved soul sometimes succumbs to this temptation because of the apparent personality attractions and so has to face the lesson of being married to a less evolved soul. This often proves to be a painful lesson for not only does such a marriage limit its destiny path but it also places severe restrictions on the creations of its marriage. Moreover, as the older soul grows in spiritual maturity and reaches the physical age when it wants to become a teacher, it finds that it is continually being restricted by its less evolved partner.

The result of this is that unless karma is to be created the older soul must restrict its evolutionary pace to that of its partner. An old soul will make this mistake only once or twice in its evolutionary cycle and will then learn the lesson and will never need to repeat it. It is important, unless your destiny requires it, not to marry a less evolved soul. You should always seek out your true partner in marriage, the partner you have chosen for this incarnation. You should seek your true partner not just to fulfil your destiny, not just fo fulfil the spiritual nature of your being but, above all, because you know that that is the commitment which you made before you came down into physical life.

Part Two follows....

This article is from "The Fantastic Teaching of Ramala".