ABOUT DIVORCE -- PART THREE

Divorce should be a mutual agreement, with both husband and wife agreeing to the seperation. If that agreement is not present and one of them wishes the marriage to go on then the other person should make the sacrifice and should remain in the marriage to help that person. That is the spiritual ideal: that the sacrifice should be made to help the other partner who still has need of the marriage.

The Family Energy

For parents with children divorce should not take place. Inevitably, it will, because Humanity is not yet of the consciousness to make the sacrifice involved. After a divorce has taken place the parents must at all times ensure that their physical presence, their spiritual energy, is available to their children whenever it is needed. It is essential, therefore, that the family energy and feeling is preserved even though seperation has taken place. The male and female energy must be present equally to hold the child in balance. A child needs the energy of the two that have created it in order to grow and become a balanced adult.

Creating On Many Levels

Even amongst people who have no children the decision to divorce should be considered very carefully, for many creations come from a marriage apart from the physical creativity of a child. A husband and wife create on many levels besides the physical. Every time they perform the sexual act not only do they create an etheric child on the higher levels of life which then becomes their responsibility, but they also create on the emotional and mental levels as well.

So during their married life a husband and wife will create many thought-forms for which they are responsible. It is easier to handle the karma of all that they have created if they stay together in love. They can transmute everything that they have created as they grow old in wisdom. When they are in their sixth cycle of life, their fifties, and have achieved spiritual maturity, they can then look back together on the life that they have led and can see the creations of their marriage. They can agree where they have erred and, together, can transmute those errors and so go forward to become the teachers of the young.

Remaining In Balance

There are some people today who believe that they have to sacrifice their marriages in order to become spiritual teachers, to fulfil a divine mission. I would say that if they cannot hold their marriages in balance then they have not a destiny to be spiritual teachers. If they cannot be in balance on the physical, the external level of life, then they are certainly not in balance on the spiritual, the inner plane of life. Sacrificial service cannot be manifested on the higher planes if it cannot first be manifested on the physical plane of life.

For many people divorce signifies the ending of a marriage which, in truth, was never a spiritual union. Today many marry, many divorce, without thought for the effects of their actions on the World. It means nothing. They were never married in spirit anyway, although of course their union has linked them karmically for many lives to come. What concerns us of the Spiritual Hierarchi is that so many of the people who enter into a spiritual marriage today, who invoke a divine blessing, who ask that their Creator bless them and guide them in the years to come, should then renounce their vows and seek to end their marriage by divorce.

Lack Of Forgiveness

One of the great failings in modern society is that a husband or wife is usually not allowed to make any mistakes, especially where adultery is concerned. There seems to me to be little forgiveness in marriage today. Each partner is held to be perfect and when one slips from that perfection, that is considered to be grounds for ending the marriage. Remember it is by forgiving that you are forgiven. People will make mistakes in marriage. People will slip from their pedestals. That must be understood. If there is love in a person´s heart, if they recognise the true quality of their husband or wife, then they will not punish them for their slip but will support them in their time of need. To make mistakes is human. It is a necessary part of human evolution. It is not grounds for divorce.

Two Divine Sparks

There are also many who divorce today because they feel that marriage is preventing them from becoming what they want to be. They feel that marriage is restricting them, that the personality traits of their partners are stifling their potential, that they cannot serve their God in some noble cause because their husband or wife will not permit it.

This, to my mind, begs the question, for they have not recognised that their partner is the other half of human creativity, the other half of their being. Marriage is an act of union between two divine sparks of creativity. God is present in both halves of the marriage, and by denying one half you are denying your God, and to embark upon some great quest when you have already denied your God is pointless. If you cannot hold a marriage in balance then you cannot be of true service in the Divine Plan. That surely is obvious.

What Is Threatened?

So many people today are seduced by the material possessions of life. Perhaps this aspect more than any other today tests a marriage and leads to divorce. When certain material standards are not achieved, when either the husband or the wife thinks that they need more material possessions, more money or status, then the marriage becomes threatened. What is threatened, of course, is not the marriage but the ideas that the husband or wife have of that marriage. The spirit that was present at the altar when they were married is still there, but how many people seek its wisdom.

If people today listened to that still, quiet voice within there would be very few divorces. If people truly loved each other, loved not the personality but the spirit, there would be no need for separation, no need for denying what they have already created on the higher levels of life.

Weigh The Balance

So I urge you all, especially if you are considering divorce, to think clearly of what you are doing. You can separate the bond of marriage for just a short time on the physical plane of life, but that is all that you will achieve and what will you haved created by that act: the karma you owe to your marriage partner, the karma you must discharge to your Creator, the necessity to come back and repeat that marriage again, the karma you owe to your children if there are any in that marriage, the karma you owe to your country, to the World, indeed to the Cosmos, for the ripples you have created on the pond of eternity. Weigh the balance carefully before you make that step.

This article is from "The Fantastic Teachings of Ramala".