ABOUT DIVORCE -- PART ONE

When a husband and wife have decided to divorce then it is essential that this act is done with love. It should be done with just as much love as was used to form the marriage. In the act of divorce there should be a mutual understanding and sharing, a recognition that although their marriage has failed in this life the seeds are been sown for another marriage in another life, perhaps under more favourable circumstances.


Only A Legal Process

You live at a time which perhaps a quarter of all marriages will end in divorce and that figure does not include the many unions which are not called marriages by society today, where people live together for many years, just as if they were married, and then seperate. Let me begin by saying that the act of divorce is really only a legal process. It is not an act which is recognised by we of the Spritual Hierarchy on the higher planes of life. In reality there is no such thing as divorce. As the Christian marriage ceremony states very clearly, "Those whom God has joined together, let no man put asunder". The meaning of that is very clear: that a marriage which has the blessing of the Creator invoked upon it cannot be dissolved, not only in this life but also in the hereafter.

When a man and a woman enter into marriage they link not only on the physical plane of life but also on the higher planes as well and the karma which they create between themselves in that marriage will link them for many, many lives to come. The process which you call divorce is but a physical instrument devised by the legal profession to separate those who have been legally joined together in marriage. It may have validity on the physical plane of Earth but it is not recognised on the hiogher planes of life. So as I begin to talk about divorce I would ask you to remember that fact above all else. You can be divorced on the physical plane but never on the higher planes because you are linked for eternity to that person you have joined in marriage.


A Human Concept

Divorce, therefore, is a human concept. It signifies the ending of a marriage. However let us be aware that there are many people today who although they think they are married have, in truth, never really married. Such people enter into marriage as if it was a game, a playground for the ego, and for them divorce is of no more significance than the marriage ceremony. There are also many in the World today, especially amongst the young, who do not believe in marriage in any form, be it church, civil or a simple union under some form of blessing.

Many people today just live together and then seperate. That seperation is also a form of divorce even if it is not recognised as such by the legal profession. However the divorce which causes so much pain and suffering in the World today is the divorce that comes from a marriage which was consecrated in a church and which should therefore not be dissolved, a marriage that is ending only because of the personality weaknesses of the individuals involved.


Aspects of Universal Law

One cannot and, indeed, should not generalise about marriage or divorce. All that I can do is to present to you the aspect of Universal Law which apply to all things on the plane of Earth, including marriage and divorce. Everything on the physical plane is ruled by the Laws of the Universe and one of those Laws is the Law of Equalisation or the Law of Balance. In any divorce therefore there must be equality in all things. The balance between husband and wife must, and will be preserved no matter what a legal settlement may decide on the physical plane of Earth, no matter who may appear to win or lose in the divorce court. The scales of justice wielded by the Lords of Karma ensure that no-one gains and no-one loses.

Although either husband or wife might appear to gain an advantage now, that imbalance will be redressed in subsequent lives. Truly, if the karma of a marriage is not fully discharged then you will return to it again and again. You will marry that person again and will have to face the lesson of that marriage again. The physical form may be different. The personalities may not be the same. But the eternal spirit within the body will be and it is the soul, which is the memory of spirit, that retains the lessons of marriage both past, present and future. You are condemned to come back and repeat everything that you do not complete in total harmony to the highest of your point of consciousness.


A Ceremony of Divorce

It would seem to me that as you hold a ceremony of marriage in a church so a ceremony of divorce should be held there too. It would seem to me that if the husband and wife came together in a church, with due solemnity, preferable to the very place where they had married and made their vows, they would think more seriously about the steps which they were about to take. Through a divorce ceremony they might grow into an understanding that this step was not necessary and that the clashes of the personality could be reconciled and placed in perspective. They might realise that they can, and should, make greater sacrifices to their marriage partner so that they could continue to learn and evolve together and give to the Earth of their Union.

For those who have entered marriage selfishly, to satisfy their own desire, this is a difficult and painful lesson to learn. Because so many people today marry with wrong motivation, marry too soon, not waiting for their destined partner, marry the choice of their ego, of their lower personality, marry for some low personal motive, the union of marriage has become a prison, a prison from which they long to escape. For them divorce is the means of escape from that prison.

Part Two Follows....

This article is from "The Fantastic Teachings of Ramala".